BEDROOM HEAT: MASSAGE YOUR WAY TO PARADISE

Sometimes, you don't need much more than your two hands to get your stressed partner into a very pliant mood. Nothing says romance like a deeeply relaxing sensual massage. Add some relaxing music, softly scented oil and aromatherapy candles and you'll turn your partner into putty in your hands, almost literally. And if you want to to take things to the next level, pour out some red wine and keep some bedroom food handy(strawberries, red grapes, soft white chocolate, whipped cream). Understand that the process must be erotic, but no sex must occur till its completion; the anticipation of sexual release heightens the pleasure of the experience.

 





 

Start out the massage by gently warming the massage oil (this could be Almond, jojoba, Moringa, Argan, Avocado, Coconut oil or any other oils that you feel comfortable with) between your palms, and ask your partner to lie face down on the bed. Most people have some major erogenous zones on their backs, especially around the shoulder blades, lower back, the back of the knees, and obviously- the gluteal muscles (i.e the butt).  Lay your finger tips on the body part and gently rotate your hands, applying some pressure in order to loosen up the muscles and remove any knots. Avoid pressing too hard so as not to cause pain to your partner.

 

 

After the Shiatsu, progress to long, gentle stroking movements (effleurage), keeping your fingers together, thumbs parallel and palms in full contact with the body part you are working on. Stroke from the lower back to the shoulders. Follow this up by compressing movements, where you gently apply pressure to the body part in order to warm up the muscle and keep the blood flowing.

 

By now, your partner should be emitting signs of intense pleasure; this is the time when you up the ante. Knead the more fleshy parts of the body such as the buttocks; create a roll of skin using your thumbs and gently push it up, like a baker kneads bread. Gently stroke the inner thighs and legs, avoiding the genitals (despite the temptation to do so). The feet  and hands provide a sensual map of the body; use some gentle shiatsu, working your thumbs from the heel to the toe and finger tips.

 

The next stage should be chest massage, start by carressing from the upper chest to the shoulder and stroking from the lower chest to the upper pelvic area. This chould have your partner bucking in anticipation- but the fun is yet to begin. For the guys, take your time and be gentle with your woman; focus on the underside of the breasts, kneading them gently until she begs you for release.

 

Before you progress to any sexual touching, make sure your partner begs, sensual massage is the ultimate form of power play and you should revel in it. enjoy!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

BEDROOM HEAT: SEX TRICKS AND TECHNIQUES

 

From interviews with many individuals I've found that lots of couples are sexually unsatisfied; the effect of this often leaks into other aspects of their lives and sometimes manifests in cheating.

 

In order to forestall the negative effects of this unfortunate state of affairs, I'm going to dig into my storehouse of information in order to unearth some tips and tricks which couples can experiment with in order to steam up their sex lives.

 

 

1. Use Props

 

Work with heat and cold; suck on an ice cube and gently blow and suck on sensitive areas of the body apart from the major erogenous zones (earlobes, the side of the neck, the inner bicep, the bottom of the abdomen, the crook of the elbows). Alternatively, you could trace patterns along these zones with a silk handkerchief.

 

 

This is not typical of Nigerian men, but you can work with bondage and blindfolds. The loss of control and sensory deprivation heightens sensations to delightful highs. However, tone down on any sado-masochistic tendencies, this can scare Nigerian men away.

 

 

2. Ladies, get more aggressive

 

Periodically let your inner animal out and turn your guy on to some seriously primal passion. Discussions with several lady friends have revealed to me that lots of guys are really boring in the bedroom, relying heavily on the 'proper' missionary position. Treat your guy to a rough massage as you knead, rub, and trail your nails over every inch of his body; don't be afraid to use a little force, men are far tougher than you think.

 

Guys hate using condoms, so practice putting a condom on with your mouth. It's an old hookers' trick and men love this. Here's how it goes:

a. Hold the condom so the rolled edge is facing you.
b. Place it between your lips and teeth that way. Stick your tongue in the middle so tongue-in-condom pokes out just a bit.
c. Put tongue-in-condom on the head of the penis. (If you want to train for this before the actual event, practice on a banana.)
d. Cover your teeth with your lips and ease your mouth over his penis until the condom is unrolled. Make sure you leave some space at the top for semen, and avoid biting or tearing the condom.

 

 

Tell your guy that you want him to take you from behind. But don't make him do all the work. Move your pelvis back and forth in sync with his thrusts, so your bodies are slapping against each other when they make contact. This may shock the more wimpy guys, but he'll quickly be forced to either pull out new skills from his bag of tricks, or upgrade his bedroom game.

 

3. Get up to speed with your Pillow talk

 

 

Many men love a woman who can hold a conversation. Read newspapers, the Financial Times and The Economist to stay abreast of world events. Keeping your partners mind occupied is a fast track to deeper intimacy.

Men, understand that snuggling does not imply that you're weak, rather it portrays you as strong, masculine and willing to protect your woman. Sometimes you just need to hold her close and  listen intently to the days activities.

 

4. Keep in Shape

 

Perform exercises to develop core muscles and pelvic muscles (internal grip), thigh muscles and balance - crucial for effective bedroom play. Use cardiovascular exercises like the stairmaster, cycling, and running to build your heart and lungs into the shape required to ensure that you're not tired until your partner is fully satisfied. Weight exercises and yoga are fantastic for building the muscular endurance and flexibility required to manipulate your body into the positions required to elicit screams from your partner.

 

I hope these tips are helpful in steaming up you sex life. If they aren't, then you have a serious problem.